The “Happy Ideas” Blog





A client of mine said their favourite exercise we’d worked on is taking on the “But, [Positive]” challenge!  It’s a fun way to practise shifting negative thoughts and expressions, into uplifting positive thoughts and expressions. I love it too – it’s a great way to turn negative thoughts and expressions, into uplifting […]

The “But, [Positive]” Technique


Have you ever found that asking or answering the question, “How was your day?” inadvertently led you into some negativity or complaining? Our conversations form the bedrock of our relationships, so if we can have more positively framed conversations, we’ll enjoy more upbeat and positive relationships from this more positive […]

Asking Happier Questions










Responding to questions positively can be super-effective at both shifting our mindset towards a more optimistic and positive outlook, and build more harmonious relationships. You probably can’t reply to every question or statement positively, but researchers have shown that when we start replying to people more positively, relationships improve, we collaborate […]

Responding Positively




It’s quite ironic that we are statistically far less likely to follow the advice of our friends and family than we are to follow advice received from people that barely know us at all. Researchers hypothesised that this was due to the advice recipients assuming their closer relations were biased by their personal […]

Good Advice













The Happiness Workshop I ran yesterday at the Findhorn Foundation was life-changing. The group entered as strangers. An hour later, they left the room buzzing, smiling, laughing and exchanging details. How had they become so much happier? Not by listening to me! Not by reading the worksheets, nor by simply wanting […]

Doing Stuff!






The Pessimistic P’s are the three central traits that we can label situations with. Applied pessimistically, and we can feel hopeless, useless, and worthless. Considering their antidotes can turn that pessimistic outlook into a more hopeful and motivating optimistic mindset. The Pessimistic P’s classify a situation in terms of it’s: […]

An Antidote For Pessimism







Hi! Have you ever heard that voice in your head asking you things like“What will happen if this happens next week?”,  or “What if I had made a different decision last month?” “What if this…” and “What if that…” can get exhausting, and these “What IF’s” don’t exactly help us enjoy […]

Why change a “What IF” into a “What IS”?


Hi there! Happy Monday! Today is March 20th - the UN’s official International Day of Happiness! Today I want to go through today’s Happy Idea together with you! I call it “Examine the Causes of Happiness” and it is used in both Positive Psychology as well as Buddhist philosophy and meditation. […]

Where does Happiness come from?



“I should do this…” “I should be that…” How often have “Should” thoughts got you feeling guilty and stressed about something? These kinds of thoughts don’t help us progress toward greater happiness. Self-critical “Should” based thoughts are inherently negatively framed, usually triggering an equal and opposite emotional resistance to the […]

Could, not Should




The Christian faith celebrates the start of Lent on Wednesday, so why do they, and every major religion on the planet, also recommend short periods of deprivation, such as fasting?  to help us feel even happier than before! To find out why, and how it can help us feel even […]

How Fasting Can Make Us Happier




Hi! There’s an amazing way we can transform hurtful comments into feelings of love, empathy and happiness. Today we’re sharing a two-phase exercise to equip you to turn insults we may receive, or frustration or hurt feelings, into peaceful contentment. Below the exercises, is an explanation of the mindset to give context […]

An antidote for hurt feelings and frustration




At the end of a typical day, how often does the question, “How was your day?” lead to some inadvertent complaining? Our daily lives are filled with conversations, which form the bedrocks of most relationships. So having more positively framed conversations, creates a more positive atmosphere, and more upbeat and […]

Asking Happier Questions


How do we shift from negative thoughts and expressions, which poison the mind with pessimism and feed any number of negative emotions, into positive thoughts and expressions, which do the opposite? Answer: The “But [Positive]” Technique: When you notice you’ve said or heard a negatively phrased statement, like a complaint […]

The “But, [Positive]” Technique







As an early Christmas gift, we’d like to share with you an exercise to strengthen the mind’s faculty of optimism (a trait both learnable and trainable) and simultaneously habituate these more positive thought habit patterns. We developed the “Positive Retrospective Interpretation” exercise to teach the subconscious how to be open to the […]

Positive Retrospective Interpretation






Hi! We’re delighted to announce the Second Edition of our Happier Mindset Training Manual – 100 Steps Happier – out today, also now available on eBook, here. Keep watching for today’s Happy Idea on motivating mindset shifts, turning low energy “I have to do this” thoughts into higher energy “I […]

You Don’t Have To, You Get To (Be Happy)!


Hi! Find out how low-intensity winter sunlight does not enable vitamin D synthesis, a process vital for our well-being and the production of serotonin (the neurotransmitter active in happy thoughts), and what alternative ways you can still thrive this winter! Click on the image below or this link to watch! […]

Why you need Vitamin D this winter




Hi! Here’s how to use the beauty of autumn to remember that everything is impermanent, which is exactly what we need to feel happy and grateful in this present moment!! Click on the image below or this link to watch! A Good Way To Think is a happiness growing community […]

How Autumn leaves can make you more grateful and happier!



Watch this video to see why every major religion recommends short periods of deprivation, such as fasting, to help us feel even happier than before! Click on the image below or this link to watch! A Good Way To Think is a happiness growing community using practical exercises and proven methods […]

Why Fasting Makes You Happier


A friend of mine has worked at a homeless shelter for many years. After listening often to people complaining about small problems like the weather, she and the team started to redirect this negativity by asking people a simple question: “Where’s the gift?” Suddenly the users of the shelter were encouraging […]

Where is the gift?



the power of “Yet”! “Yet” is one of the most powerful tools in the motivation toolbox. By looking at progress towards our objectives or resolutions in terms of those things we’ve already achieved and the things that just haven’t been achieved yet, success towards anything becomes inevitable. Nothing is a failure, it […]

The power of “Yet


How can we keep operating at our optimal happiest capacity during more emotionally turbulent times?   A day may come when it feels like your wonderful world has fallen apart. Maybe there’s anger or stress or worry, or anything else that fundamentally cannot coexist with joy, enthusiasm, focus, inspiration, contentment and […]

A magic trick for happiness




How can you use your working and living environments to positively influence how you act and feel? Cluttered environments are extremely effective at raising stress hormone levels, as our minds are over-stimulated by disordered thought triggers. Stress increasing clutter might be an overflowing “to be sorted” paperwork or unfinished projects, […]

Clear environment, clear mind



Do you want more money or do you want more freedom? Freedom is as highly prized today as it was 2000 years ago when Epictetus wrote “Freedom is secured not by the fulfilling of men’s desires, but by the removal of desire.” Socioeconomic freedom only really provides the potential for […]

More money or more freedom? (or something else?)





Have you ever found yourself with so many thoughts buzzing around your mind that the idea of enjoying peaceful, contented happiness was as tantalising, yet impossibly out of reach, as a Golden Snitch? There are ways to allow these kinds of mental obstacles to untangle themselves and to put them into perspective. Ways to take a step back to see the […]

Let the Thoughts Rain out



How many happy thoughts do you have every day? The average human mind is estimated to have between fifty and one hundred thousand thoughts per day, and studies have suggested that as many as 40% can be “negative”, such as fears, worries or stress etc. Instead of trying to suppress these thoughts, […]

40,000 happy thoughts a day?














When you see “You are here” signs throughout the exciting days ahead, take a moment to consider what that really means. What a tremendous accomplishment of life. A Good Way To Think is a happiness growing community using practical exercises and proven methods to empower you and your world live even happier.  Passing […]

You are here…



Periods of “deprivation” are recommended by almost all happiness experts to heighten and deepen the sensations of appreciation and gratitude upon return of the deprived thing. All major religions also recognise the benefits of temporary deprivation and annually encourage periods of deprivation, such as Lent (Christianity), Ramadan (Islam), Yom Kippur […]

Periods of Deprivation







Our exciting new happiness enhancing guidebook – 100 Steps Happier – goes on sale today! CLICK HERE TO ORDER A COPY, and get an extra 10% off with discount code: DISCOUNT10 I’m so pleased to share this exciting new book with you. It’s been many months of development, deconstructing the elements of our lives that most […]

100 Steps Happier – Out Today!














It is us that make our decisions. And it is our decisions that make us. Nobody else can control our decisions, they’re entirely ours to make. We are gifted with these miraculous minds, with the uninterrupted authority to think independent thoughts make independent decisions, and choose how positively and gratefully we interpret the world around […]

Decisions, decisions, decisions…



Scientists estimate if we cured cancer tomorrow, we would add between 3 – 4 years on average life expectancies for men and women in the developed world. Research from Yale university studying death rates and life expectancy, identified a repeatable extension of average life expectancy of around 7.5 years for […]

Let’s fight cancer with a smile :-)













It’s not happiness that makes us thankful, but thankfulness that makes us happy. Grateful thoughts create happy feelings. That’s why developing habits and capacity for gratitude is at the very core of almost all happiness increasing approaches. And this trick can help you achieve exactly that! Try to consciously start at […]

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Positive social connections are a cornerstone of happiness and health. A conversation with a friend can have a lasting positive effect, increasing your energy and cultivating greater motivation for action. In fact, simply belonging to a social group and having some degree of emotional connection with another person has been […]

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