Happy Idea 147


“Should” thoughts don’t help us with anything. Feelings of “should” are inherently negatively framed and are de-energising, automatically triggering an equal and opposite emotional resistance to the thought/task.

Instead we can reframe them as “could” thoughts. The connotations of “could” highlights our choice in the matter, it empowers the thinker and removes the paralysing emotional resistance.

These could thoughts benefit from being paired with a brief contemplation of the consequences of the options, so we understand the repercussions of any action or inaction.

So practice catching any thoughts involving the sensation of should and redirect the mind to understanding it is merely a choice of things you COULD do. Certainly there are consequences to every decision, so understand them and make an objective decision.

Without the emotional paralysis, we then feel free and clear to take positive action.


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